Reflections on Love / Wedding Dinner at St. Regis,


Welcome to St. Regis, decked out in a Shangai theme, complete with the feathered frills, vintage songbird, and zany emcee. Its been awhile since we have attended a wedding dinner with such glitz and glamour. Every table had a towering tablepiece, which added to the grandeur, but posed a lot of problems with line-of-sight. I don’t remember seeing the emcee’s face at all the entire evening, for all his attempts to leave a lasting impression. Felt a little sorry for him, having to crack jokes in mandarin which no one in the ballroom seemed to understand or to care about.


The food was generally good with excellent presentation, but perhaps trying a little too hard to impress. You’d have to say that it was certainly unique, not the standard Chinese wedding dinner fare. Portions were individually served in French style minimalist portions with great flair and an eye for detail. Service standards of the waiting staff was rather disappointing, I must say, with our drinks being forgotten at least four times.


Amidst all this talk about the venue, the decor and the food, lets not forget what the wedding is really about, the celebration of love between two people joined together for a lifetime of commitment and companionship. The emcee quipped, “Marriage is not a word, it is a sentence… a LIFE SENTENCE.” Well perhaps we shouldn’t put it so negatively, but there is a lot of truth in that statement. The BIG DAY is only the beginning, the BIG CHALLENGE is to navigate the twist and turns and bumps and bruises of a lifetime of togetherness. Will the union stand the test of time? We always start out with the best of intentions, but a lot of the time we place expectations on our partners and on the relationship, and in so doing we forget what love is really all about.

Love suffers long and is kind: Are we prepared to exercise patience and grace to our partners? Do we accept that nobody is perfect, that in a marriage, you will often experience both the good side and the bad side of your partner? Are we kind to each other? Do we seek to understand before being understood?

Love does not envy; love does not parade itself:Don’t look at others and compare, don’t exalt yourself above the other. You might end up winning the argument, but losing the relationship.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things: Are we a pillar of support to our partners? Or are we a lighted fuse? Are we one that inspires and brings out the best in the other? Or do we make a habit of tearing each other down? Are we willing to go through the sun, the rain, the valley, the storm, through good and bad times with each other? Action speaks a lot louder than words. Many promises have been made, and many promises not kept. How much is your word worth?

Love never fails:True selfless agape love never fails to bring about the best in any relationship. True love is an emptying of yourself, your desires, your needs, and only focussing on the object of your love. You will give your all, and even your life, for the sake of the other person. A sacrificial love. A pure love, without any evil agenda. Love isn’t a feeling, it is a decision, a choice. Long after the fuzzy emotional feelings die down, true love will remain, almost spiritual in nature, it will stand the test of time. Are we committed to dying to ourselves and dying for others?

Marriage is a lifetime commitment!.


Where are we going? Where do we come from?


Where are we going? Where do we come from?

Life is all about destiny and pre-destination. We cannot choose our parents, our ethnicity, or our birth nationality, but we can choose how we want to live our lives, what drives us, and what satisfies us.

Both the poor and the rich can be caught in a trap of existence. The poor in a cycle of poverty, unable to break free from the chains that tie them down to the dirt; the rich in a cycle of excess, never in need, but always in greed, always wanting more, and never learning to be content, but running themselves into the ground with the illusions of their own greatness and significance in the grand scheme of life.

The truth is that, whether rich or poor, naked we come into this world, and naked we will leave. There is nothing we can take with us to the afterlife, and all that we have fought and worked so hard for to build up, our houses, palaces, kingdoms and empires, we will have to forfeit when we step through to the other side. We are all but sojourners in this world. We are nothing more than a tiny insignificant speck of dirt in this great glorious universe. So what then, would be the destiny we choose for ourselves? To chase after the wind, vanity of vanities?


Are we able to take a step back and take stock of our lives? Of who we are?

Are we able to make a choice to make a difference in the lives of another? To feed the poor and to offer whatever love we can give to another sojourner in this existence? Can we choose not to flaunt our position and possessions, but to flaunt our capacity to think for others more than we think for ourselves?

Can we truly live and be happy? Not always being hungry for more, and more, and more- more things, more blings, more underlings, more happenings, more fantastic feelings? I only want more…. contentment, peace, grace, and love. I want more of God and everything wonderful and good that He brings to me. I want to be quenched by the waters of everlasting life. I don’t want the shadows and the illusionary, but I want the real, the truth, the illuminating, the perfect embrace, the agape love.



Lost Her Parents, but Still With So Much Love to Give


Nine year old Bao San, orphaned when her parents died in a traffic accident, one of the newest members of HoG children’s home. She is currently there with her older sister, and will soon be joined by their two brothers.

What a lovely, gentle spirit she has, with so much love to give, even though she has had to go through so much pain and heartache as a child. She was so fond of Alethea, even though Alethea was initially resistant to her gestures of affection. She persisted and gained Alethea’s trust.

Little Bao San left a big impression on me. Though she is small in physical stature, her big heartedness outshines most of us Singaporeans. Blessed are those who are poor in spirit, for the kingdom of heave belongs to them! Little Bao San, you shine with God’s love, may God bless you every step, and remember that His is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think…. He has a plan and purpose for your life! 🙂 Thank you for being God’s blessing to Alethea and me. We will keep you in our prayers always!